Marriage Counselling

My family was surprised when my sister told us that she wants to get married this month. I mean that she will marry soon but not now because I have other plans too. She said they are planning to have marriage counseling next week. I was shocked then because I am planning to get married also this year. I asked my sister to give way and postpone her marriage early next year but it seems she does not want. I am really sure what will happen, if she would have her wedding or mine?

Anyway I attended a wedding yesterday. The guy who spoke in the wedding said, God took a look at man, His creation, and said, “it is not good for man to be alone.” So, God called man and said; “I will create a partner for you and I shall call her woman”. She will take care of you, prepare your meals, keep your house in order, tend to your children and fulfill all your needs. The man asked, “What is this going to cost me Lord?”, and God said, “it will cost you an arm and a leg”. So, the man said, “What can I get for a RIB?” and thus, the kind of women we have today! It was just a joke. Hehe. Let me go on to a more serious note. In the Philippines, old folks always say Marriage is NOT like a spoonful of hot rice that you put in your mouth and then spit out when you burn your tongue.” All this to say that marriage is a lifetime commitment. Like the spoonful of rice to satisfy your hunger, marriage is food for your heart to satisfy the need to love and to be loved. But when the trials of marriage starts to sting, you do not bail out, which, I am sad to say, is what happens in many of the marriages in our current times.

Marriages nowadays end because of the most trivial things. I think two people who are in love should save marriage counseling. Little things such as squeezing the toothpaste in the middle instead of the bottom or snoring too loud that the partner can’t take the torture. We have to face the truth that people change through their lifetime, some for the worst. The day always comes when we start asking if our partner is still the same person we married years back. These are the times when our commitment is challenged and our foundations are slowly chipped off by life’s realities. One way to have successful marriage is to give an unconditional love to each other. Always forgive and understand each other because time will come that you will have to argue about certain things. We should support and trust each other. Another thing that we should know about marriage, it is a teamwork. The husband and wife should work together to keep their relationship strong and fresh. Communication is one key to have a lasting relationship but we should not forget that couple should share same values. Common values are important because if they share same values like family, honesty, fidelity and money it would be easier for them to resolve conflicts.

For couples who are having problem with their marriage try to check online marriage counseling. It can help couples and partners resolve differences and rekindle love. It is like couples therapy resolve conflicts and improves the relationship. Marriage counseling gives couples the tools to communicate better, negotiate differences, problem solve and even argue in a healthier way.